4TH BLOG
Not too long ago a love interest drove home the point that he was unhappy with me in some very specific ways.
That one hit hard.
Shortly after, a client expressed her displeasure with our work through an uncomfortable measure.
And then a colleague shared her frustration in how I was not handling things to her preference.
Now that I think about it, even my LOA Recon rave reviews seem a little thin lately.
If I weren’t LOA savvy, it would be easy to conclude I am astonishingly good at letting people down.
But I know what’s really afoot here … I just let the “they-don’t-like-me” vibe get a little out of hand. And when it rains, it pours. Because once a thing has momentum, it starts showing up everywhere.
In that first hit I adopted an unhelpful filter that’s coloring more and more interactions in life. It’s like wearing sunglasses that black out the positive and highlight the negative.
A savvy creator knows to put this sort of thing in check before it gets any more momentum.
I’m sharing the process in case you’ve also got an unenjoyable vibe gaining traction in your world, too …
1. I could shift attention to the love I am getting.
Which is easy to do, because I get way more accolades than gripes. Just takes a little commitment and discipline to refocus on the good.
2. I could let it be okay.
It’s a viable option to get comfortable with their discomfort, and not make it out to be a big bad deal. Not everyone is going to love you, Jeannette, and that’s okay.
Dropping resistance to what we don’t want is transformational!
3. I could check the originating source.
I know from experience that the more I approve of myself, the less likely I am to hear others’ disapproval.
(Although I love being able to practice loving myself even when others don’t. Which could be an indicator of an unconscious payoff, but my gut says that’s not it in this case.)
The first thing I did in each situation was make sure I’m okay with how I conduct myself. If I’m not good with it, it’s no mystery why I’d get that reflection from others.
So it could be that this feedback is a valuable indicator as to where I’ve fallen out of integrity with myself.
If there was anything to clean up, doing so could help turn this vibe around if I used it as a chance to create a new focus.
I know one thing for sure, I’m not in manifesting integrity with myself when I let this vibe go unchecked.
So my primary job is to not let this spiral be the boss of me. I can decide when I’ve had enough and put an end to it by changing my mind.
If you’ve got a pattern happening in life that you’re not a big fan of, it’s worth remembering you can turn it around, too.
All you have to do is be willing to shift your attention in a way that activates anything you like better.
There might be some feelings that want to be felt before you can dial off, but after that we know how this goes … we just activate the vibration of what we prefer.
So …
If it seems like the money keeps coming up short, that’s a good one to put to rest.
If you notice health challenges keep cropping up, this could be a good chance to decide something new.
If relationships seem to be endlessly difficult or unrewarding, I’d suggest activating something easier to enjoy.
We know that we get what we pay attention to. So if you’re not attending to something fabulous already, maybe join me in finding new thoughts, new images, better stories, positive evidence, or anything else that helps redirect focus.
Because we’re cool like that. We’re conscious creators.
